Show me your insecurities, show me your mess, and show me the cookie dough in your fridge

Posted on by Hannah Rowley

After a long day of holding a crying baby, holding back crying myself, looking like a horrific mess of a person.. I stumble upon someone’s vlog that’s titled “Morning Routine.” It’s laughable. Imagine this: a perfectly tanned, fit girl with beautiful blonde hair looking rested as HELL waking up to a bright and shiny day. She lives in her minimalistic penthouse apartment in LA, because who doesn’t, right? She starts her day off with her morning grains, wheatgrass shake, some seeds, and like, a fourth of a banana. Next, she does her forty minutes of yoga & meditation because yoga is life and without it, she’s totally “off.” Next, she takes a shower and uses about 62 products. You can guess how the rest of her day goes.

This is totally, please excuse my language, fucked. I’m sorry, but I’m not fooled. I am absolutely exhausted even watching her faking it. It’s not realistic. I have seen so many professional Instagrammers, vloggers, journalists, etc. who exaggerate the truth. I know that’s not real, but the sad part about this is that a lot of women don’t. You might do yoga, but I know you are just showing off the best two second clip you could find. You might eat healthy, but you aren’t showing the cookie dough in your fridge. You might use a few products, but you are pulling out the entire arsenal with that one. You might have a nice apartment, but I know you shoved all your mess in the corner out of sight.

Why in the world is perfection so sought after? It’s not real, it’s not human, and it makes other women feel like shit. It makes all women feel like shit, because we are all fooling each other into making this seem achievable. If you feel like you have to be like these other women, please assure yourself that they are working their ass off to keep up this appearance. You can try to keep it up, that’s up to you – but please know, that it’s not expected nor should it be.

Give me real any day of the week, because all of these “perfect” girls bore me to death. Show me your insecurities, show me your mess, and show me the cookie dough in your fridge. Tell me what makes you angry, tell me about that time you were being unreasonable, and tell me about that time you embarrassed yourself. Give me something to relate to and to reassure me that we are just human. Let’s be okay with just being who we are and put an end to this façade.

Published by Hannah Rowley

I’m a tired Mama, who is more than just a tired Mama. Living in the slow Midwest, from the fast paced East coast.

9 thoughts on “Show me your insecurities, show me your mess, and show me the cookie dough in your fridge”

  1. I was one where she woke up with two candles next to her bed, because she like waking up with a smell of fresh baked cookies.
    Helllooooo! Can somebody call the safety department here?!

    How very fake are they.
    And we all want to be like them, until reality kicks in.

    Great post!

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  2. As a soft tissue specialist…movement Analyst and elite performance coach…I run my own clinic fixing “broken people” and working with professional athletes.

    I really enjoyed the passion in this post and the path you have chosen…it’s empowering.

    You are a great role model for women.

    Your writing style is very real.

    Don’t forget that 99% wouldn’t have the burning desire and dedication to put their heart and soul on the line for us all to read.

    It’s an amazing trait to have!

    Hope all goes well. I wish you nothing but prosperity and success.

    Have an amazing day

    Mr Cleaver

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  4. First,i want to thank you for following my blog.
    This post is awesome.I loved the last line of your post-‘ we are all humans.Lets be okay just being who we are and put an end to this facade’.This is a very matured view but unfortunately people don’t understand its rationality.
    Have a great day,Hannah!

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